1. Indian law does not deny parents from adopting children even after having children of their own.
2. Counselling plays a crucial role in the case of adoption
3. Adoption in India must adhere to the laws mentioned in the Adoption Regulations, 2017.
4. Parents must prepare themselves for the changes in behavior and the endless list of questions from their adopted children.
The famous American philosopher, Eric Hoffer, once said – Children are the keys to paradise. Children often give people a sense of a ‘complete family picture.’ Couples or individuals who wish to experience parenthood, yearn to adopt children. Lately, many young couples have considered adoption even after having children of their own. While the practice is indeed noble, there are many aspects to it that go unnoticed.
Facts to remember
Adoption is more than a merely giving a child food and shelter until he or she can do independently. It is about giving a child the sense of belongingness and giving them a chance to groom himself or herself into competent members of society.
Adoption procedures in India adhere to the laws mentioned in the Adoption Regulations, 2017. According to Marykutty, a member of Child Welfare Tribunal in Kottayam, situated in the southern Indian state of Kerala, the law does not deny parents from adopting children even after having children of their own.
Counseling plays a crucial role in this regard. These sessions help the parents prepare themselves for a family life that only a few have experienced. During this point in time, parents are informed of the areas of child-care and the rights of the child.
The other-side of parenting
Adoptive parents shoulder a greater responsibility. To begin with, they must not only care for the child but also give them a sense of belongingness. Moreover, adoptive parents must be patient as they build a certain degree of trust with the child.
Support systems also form an impact part of a child’s upbringing. Unlike some family systems in the western world, adoption in India is likely to alter the perceptions or opinions of one’s relationships with the extended family.
Being the best parent
If you are wondering whether raising adopted children would be a walk in the park, then, think again. The process is tedious. Not only does the act involve legal loopholes but it also involves a series of questions from the child and the society. It is for this reason that one must resort of pre-adoption counseling.
According to Ruby Nakka, the director of a charitable trust The Hope House (http://www.indiahopehouse.org/about_us), parents who wish to adopt children should remember the following:
1. The decision to adopt a child must be mutually agreed upon by the husband and wife. If either of the parties shows a lack of interest in doing so, then, it is advised not to do so.
2. Be open to the concept of adoption. Most often, adoption is viewed as an act of shame or the inability of a woman to bear a child. Hence, one must be bold to discuss the topic in public. It is also advised that the term adoption must be explained to the children at the appropriate age. This is suggested to avoid a third party being responsible for strained ties between the parent(s) and the child.
3. With regard to the child’s biological parents, adoptive parents ought to be tactful while answering questions posed by the child/children. It is, in fact, wrong or unfair if the children are not told the truth about their birth parents. According to Ruby, the truth is the only factor that can make the children stronger by the day. It also helps bridge the trust between both parties.
4. Health check-ups are a part of the process. It is encouraged that parents, who are keen on adopting children, should adopt children who are healthy and are not diagnosed with any severe illnesses. Also, consider the vaccinations and essential health check-ups to be done before adoption.
5. Favoritism is an aspect that the parents ought to address from the moment the child is brought in to the house. This is applicable when the parents have a child of their own.
All children have the right to grow up in a family environment, as well as in an atmosphere of happiness, love, and understanding. The decision to do so is ours