- Sex is no longer considered to be a topic that one discusses post marriage
- Healthy discussions about sex have many benefits
- Discussions about sex can help prevent unplanned pregnancies and abortions
- One must not hesitate to question and learn more about the various aspects of healthy sexual interaction
Television, cinema, and the internet have altered the people’s perceptions towards topics that were often considered ‘censored’ or of ‘bad taste’ in the past. One such subject, for instance, has become a common element of many discussions – sex. To those belonging to the generation of our grandparents, this was a topic that ought to be discussed only post ‘marriage.’ However, with the media’s extensive coverage and availability of information online, it ceases to be a mystery anymore.
Anuradha, a Life Sciences teacher based in Kerala, says that students today are not shy to know more about contraception and its consequences. “This was not the case in many schools across the state about ten years ago,” Anuradha added.
Signs – Fear of Intimacy
We have often heard our elders stating that men and women should refrain from being friends with those who discuss sexuality and sex. Indeed, as a child, we would have adhered to their advice. You would be surprised to know that despite having various sources of information on the World Wide Web and offline, many are ignorant or stand by false conceptions about sex.
These signs imply that you fear intimacy:
- You fret from conversations that speak of anything associated with an intimate relationship – even if it is a scene in a romantic comedy movie. It is time that we accept the fact that healthy conversations about sex are necessary. Discussing the same between friends and family would help rid-off those misconceptions and could even help the person be at ease.
- You may begin to feel uneasy even in cases of acceptable and honest public displays of affection.
Overcome the Fear Effectively
To begin with, there is nothing disgusting about sex. After all, sex is the reason for the existence of many living organisms. One could consider discussing the topic in a wise yet tactful manner.
Yes, some adults are fear or are shy about sex. It is, hence, important to ensure that they open-up about the topic and discuss it fearlessly. Here are a few ways to do so:
- Talk about sex in an objective manner. Sex is a part of life, and a healthy sexual life is crucial among couples. Hence, it is better if the person’s friends or family address sex in a rather ‘matter-of-fact manner.’
- Encourage discussions, no matter how silly the queries or the arguments may be. But, be careful. A person’s perceptions regarding such topics are sometimes shaped due to a few drastic yet unpleasant life experiences – either as a child, a working professional or at any other stages of life.
With Your Children, Especially Teenagers
Schools and colleges, in the recent past, have made efforts in the areas of sex education. Then again, these attempts have failed in answering the queries of many students. Here are a few suggestions that could prove to be effective:
- Draw a connection with the sexual aspects of other living organisms. For instance, if a child asks a mother about the function of the woman’s breasts, try to explain it in relation to that of a cow. Explain how its udder provides milk, which contains nutrients essential for its calves.
- Do not shy away from queries or make-up stories when you are unable to answer your children. You wouldn’t want them to grow up with the wrong ideas about sexual interaction.
- Teach your teenagers and little children about the difference between a healthy touch and an act that is impolite or uncouth. Moreover, encourage them to be on their guard and trust their instincts.
- If educational institutes yearn to conduct sex education sessions, ensure that the boys and girls sit together in the same space. According to Dr. Diwakar, a pediatrician based in Kerala, this is the first step towards erasing those initial inhibitions towards interacting with the opposite gender.
So, speak up and be safe!!