- If the children get the emotional care and support needed from another trustworthy family members, the working mother doesn’t have to worry.
So, you have entered the world of motherhood. As taxing as it might seem, every moment with your child or children is precious. Yet, you miss those days when you could head to work, having a contact circle of your own and be proud of being independent.
What do you do? Do you fight for your desire to work and earn a living or do you be submissive?
The choice, the dilemma
Experts have stated, time and again, that the mother is the primary caregiver to the child. Hence, she is, in most cases, most attached to her children as opposed to the rest of the family. Societal norms also play a crucial role in the woman’s decision-making abilities. Many families firmly believe that it is the woman or the mother who ought to make sacrifices for the family.
As a result, many women stop pursuing their careers upon becoming a mother. The second reason behind the fewer number of career-oriented mothers is the excessive pressure of striking a fine balance between work and family time. A mother is most concerned about the safety and well-being of the child. As many have stated – “nobody can care for your child as much as you do.” This constant fear pulls them back and prompts them to step away from the world of jobs and financial independence.
The flop-side, however, is that women who don’t work and are intensely dependent on their spouses for their finances tend to become frustrated and are often pushed into a cocoon that could have several impacts on her mental well-being.
You can’t have it all
A senior psychologist from Ernakulam, situated in the southern Indian state of Kerala, believes that the life of a working woman is never as smooth as some consider it to be. Indeed, the woman might want the best of both worlds. But, in the end, you are human, and it isn’t wise to push the limits. It is, thus, a battle of choices. This could be the reason why some women choose alternative professions. For instance, chartered accountants teach accountancy at schools and colleges or conduct private tuition classes.
Will the child suffer?
It is unlikely that children of working parents spend or enjoy the companionship of their parents regularly. Then again, this does not imply that the child would suffer immensely due to the absence of the mother. As long as the son or daughter receives the emotional care and support that he or she needs from another trustworthy member of the family, the working mother does not want to worry a lot.
Your time, your call
Financial stability is of vital importance in today’s independent world. It is, hence, wiser if both the mother and father pursue careers of their own. Most importantly, women have the right to take their own decisions when the time is right. So long as the spouse and the families support her desires to work, the sky is the limit for her.
Things to consider
Here are a few questions that a woman must answer about before venturing into the world of ‘mothers-with-careers’:
- How career-oriented are you?
- Why do you want to work?
- Are you happy about being a working mother?
- Are you convinced of the support systems around you?
- Would your children be comfortable if you work for a living or not?
- Would you be able to do justice to the roles of a mother, wife, an employee/self-employed person?
Indeed, being a responsible parent is a full-time job. But it is important for one to experience a new side of life that helps them see another the world from a new perspective.