- Your child’s upbringing is what influences him while he’s growing up
- Make your children understand the importance of doing small errands by themselves
- Teach your child to appreciate his failures and make him understand all that matters is the effort he put in
- Let your child be the decision maker in matters concerning him
- Your child should know the importance of extending a helping hand
French musician Nadia Boulanger once said, “Loving a child doesn’t mean giving in to all his whims; to love him is to bring out the best in him, to teach him to love what is difficult.” And what better advice can one give to new parents other than this. Your bundle of joy can often become your source of worries, tensions, and stress, unless, you choose to make every little moment as a parent a precious memory. Your priorities change; your life turns upside down; you barely look in a mirror before stepping out for work; and here comes the best part, you don’t care, as long as your baby is well-fed and happy. But parenting is much more than feeding and cleaning your baby at the right time; it is also about raising an individual who is smart, responsible, humble, kind and pleasant. And being the smart, independent and confident woman you are, you want nothing less than a self-sufficient child who doesn’t depend on you for everything and anything.
1. Healthy environment
Your parenting skills are often questioned when your child throws tantrums at the drop of a hat. Why do you think that is? More than anything else, your child’s upbringing is what influences him while he’s growing up. Believe us, every action of your children reflects upon you more than you would ever know. They are little envoys of your own selves. So, you don’t take what we say lightly, always keep a nourishing environment at home. It is sacrosanct for a child to grow up in an atmosphere which is both healthy and happy. They imbibe great qualities from their parents who adhere to values, beliefs, and ideologies.
2. Inculcate responsibility
Try and give small responsibilities to your children from a young age. Make them understand the importance of doing small errands by themselves. Ask them to wash their plates after food and fold their sheets the moment they’re up. Join them while they are on it and make it a fun everyday affair. Always remember, you are not a task manager but a mother. Instead of controlling, train them with gentle words and action. You must show them what you would do in the morning and how you would behave in certain situations. And since you are your child’s biggest mentor, he/she will only be too happy to imitate them, and slowly they will become a habit.
3. Embrace failures
It’s time to do the reality check; your child is not perfect, just like you. The world wouldn’t come crumbling down just because he/she made a mistake or fail a paper on the go. A failure doesn’t make him incompetent or hopeless, being the adult you are you know it, but your child may not get it. Teach him to appreciate his failures and make him understand all that matters is the effort he puts in. Tell him coping with both failures and victories in a composed manner will take him a long way.
4. Give them space
Stop being a helicopter parent and give your child some space to breathe. Overprotection will not only harm your children but will also make them inefficient. Ask your child to come up with solutions, instead of jumping for his rescue every time he’s faced with a problem. Let your child be the decision maker in matters concerning him – be it his dress, food, subjects or the place he wants to visit. It will not only boost his confidence levels but also will make him self-sufficient.
5. Lending a helping hand
You may have already taught him about the importance of sharing. Now it’s time for him to learn about extending help. You can always ask him to look after his little sister while you are busy with household chores or read out the newspaper to his grandmother. Your kind gestures make a lasting impact on your children so be an example. Do not ignore his actions and praise him whenever he does something good.